JW Poet

This was shared with me by a dear friend and I felt it was so powerful and profound I had to keep the torch moving. I just ask that if this put a spark in your mind you do the same. Married and Single People

Married and single people. If you’re not married yet, share it with a friend. If you are married, share it with your

spouse … and reflect on it.

An African proverb states, Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye.

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity,

ignorance, pressure from others or a low self esteem make you blind to warning signs.

Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren’t really that important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you’ve got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.

You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best

in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you

compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship?

Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can’t take someone to the altar to alter them. You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self -esteem, spiritual discernment, and a life, you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients

of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a

relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong?

Communication

Intimacy

A sense of humor

Sharing household tasks

Some getaway time without business or children

Daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch,a note)

Sharing common goals and interests

Giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure

Giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as

resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

All The Best :-)

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